The Buzz: As a physician and a psychologist, what I found missing in the noise surrounding the Constance McMillen story was any serious discussion of why a growing number of girls self-identify as lesbian or bisexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that, as Seinfeld might say. But why are young women today at least three times more likely than their brothers to identify as bisexual or homosexual? "I kissed a girl and I liked it," Katy Perry told us in her #1 hit single. Megan Fox, Lindsay Lohan, Lady Gaga, Anna Paquin, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore - they all want us to know that they are bisexual. There is no comparable crowd of young male celebrities rushing to assure us that they go both ways. Imagine a young man singing "I kissed a boy and I liked it." Would that song reach #1 on the charts? Why not?
First, that "kissed a boy" song made the gay club scenes ages ago, or so it now seems. I believe we might have some het blinders on here. Search YouTube for "soccer practice" for the ten year old gay alternative.
And remember Adam Lambert anyone?
Second, I suppose the author takes issue with the Kinsey estimates of the homosexual proportions in the population. Probably more het blinder there.
Of course, it will be a long time before we can know the truth because of the identified risk and danger of coming out. Perhaps we see more girls coming out because it's becoming a little easier for some?
Third, it has been more socially acceptable for women to have closer relationships since about forever, and lesbian scenes have been a staple of hetero porn marketed to straight men since there was porn.
Fourth, boys can often be sexual loosers, just as the author suggests. So desparately wanting some. So constantly denied. Living in their fictional sex lives. Porn or no. When they finally do get a little in that back seat, it's a recipe for disaster for the girls involved.
Fifth, our culture, much less society, does little to promote the sexual self-confidence of boys, aside to assure them that for whatever reason they cannot possibly be gay.
The security I see in most American straight men regardingo their own sexuality is astoundingly absent, and my preference to avoid Psychology Today remains confirmed.
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